352 pages, William
Morrow and Co., ISBN-13: 978-0060188627
“English
ambassadresses are usually on the dotty side”, according to Nancy Mitford as
quoted by Katie Hickman in the introduction to her account of the
not-so-glamorous side of embassy life, but the women depicted in Daughters of Britannia: The Lives and Times
of Diplomatic Wives were a hardy lot: many of the stories related in her
book brought forth the visions of the proper Englishman dressing for dinner
each night in the jungle, attended by an equally resplendent lady by his side (Hickman’s
insights are all the more compelling as she grew up in the diplomatic service
and displays much affection and admiration for these unsung ladies). The
letters and diary excerpts are interesting, sometimes poignant reminders of how
isolated and far from home the ladies were. Hickman calls primarily on the
journals and letters of some remarkable ladies (whether dotty or not) who
followed their husbands to posts, ranging from Constantinople in the 17th
Century to Slovakia in the 20th. Some, like Emma Hamilton (Naples),
Isabel Burton (Brazil and Syria), and Vita Sackville-West (Persia) are well
known in their own right; most, like Catherine Macartney and Ella Sykes (posted
to the Chinese-Russian border), claimed their places in this history because of
their voluminous correspondence.
This,
perhaps, explains the book’s peculiar organization, as it is arranged by ambassadorial
duties and not by dates or individuals. While interesting in itself, ultimately
I found this annoying and difficult to follow: we first meet a lady on page 6
and do not hear of her again until page 200; or it skips between the 17th
and 20th Centuries and back within a couple of paragraphs.
Consequently, I had never had a clear idea of who they were and when their
stories were taking place. Also, Hickman – perhaps reflecting her diplomatic
upbringing – is almost too discreet in most circumstances, and several of the
incidents related in her book beg for clarification; while I didn’t expect a
tell-all tabloid style, neither did I expect an almost Victorian reticence. The
author clearly had done a great deal of research and took advantage of her own
and her mother’s recollections, but was in great need of a good editor.
For
all that, Daughters of Britannia makes
for an interesting read: many of the wives within were driven to letter-writing
by loneliness and hardship, but they managed to convey the thrill and challenge
of their exotic surroundings; other wives corresponded about the opulence and
romance of their assignments (one, in particular, was greatly impressed by the
coronation of Czar Nicholas I). Whatever the circumstances, the roles of
Foreign Office wives were, until recently, precisely outlined: calling for the
ambassadress to be hostess, helpmate and manager, sometimes cook, gardener,
nurse and even den mother to the wives of underlings in the embassy or
consulate. The protocols were maintained in spite of revolution, famine,
drought and anti-British sentiment (as noted in Mary Fraser’s reports from
China in the 19th Century). Not the least of the burdens was
separation from their children, who were often sent off to British boarding
schools thousands of miles from their parents. An excellent insight into a
rarely recorded and, now, long-lost world.